I created this image for an Instagram post yesterday and thought it would be good to share here.
A few years ago I got a glimpse into a bully’s life.
One of the things that surprised me was their pride in their ability to “encourage ” people to do things that they wanted.
When it was my turn to experience their “skills” I was shocked, hurt and I shut down.
For me, this was a gift. For the insight helped me realize it wasn’t me. All those years of wondering why I was a target was now clarified.
It. Wasn’t. Me.
Part of me hesitated to put that out there.
Here’s the thing, the experience I had with this person finally ended questioning myself. I stopped asking “what did I do?” “why did I deserve to be treated that way?”. I’m not saying I am going to be immune to future manipulative tactics, but I am going to be stronger and wonder what might be going on in their life to have such behaviour. So the gift/lesson became the awareness of other people’s internal stories that are often masked by this conduct.
So to anyone who is struggling with a bully in their life, I want you to know that’s IT’S NOT YOU.